We celebrated our 31st anniversary in August 2011 – everyone is invited next year!
Presented above are the pictures from our anniversary party where everyone had a great time. Many thanks to expert photographer Simaen Skolfield for these wonderful photos!
Welcome to the 49th installment of the Letter from the Case Supervisor. Once again, I’m Greg Smith, Senior Case Supervisor of Mace-Kingsley Family Center, New OT® VIII, Golden Age of Tech® Class VI Auditor and Class V Graduate C/S.
In reviewing the wonderful book “Scientology 8008″ by LRH® I came across some data which is very pertinent and useful in the raising of children. It is from the chapter entitled“Communication”:
LRH says, “Communication, however, is far more important than affinity or reality. For it is the operation, the action, by which one experiences emotion and by which one agrees. Communication is not only the modus operandi, it is the heart of life and is by thousands of percent the senior in importance to affinity and reality.” (page 283)
Later on in the same chapter he writes, “Further, one is as responsible as one can communicate. One is not responsible for that with which he cannot communicate.” (page 285)
Ever have any trouble with your kids fighting with you or amongst themselves? Here are the exact reasons why they are doing so and not taking responsibility for each other!
“But,” you say, “How do you get them to communicate better so their responsibility level rises and they stop fighting with each other and with me? Aha! Well, see what LRH says about this later in this same chapter: “There are many levels of communication. The best is self-determined communication by postulate containing no effort. But any is better than none.” (page 285)
I’m sure using your imagination you can come up with fresh new ways to get your kids to communicate. Talk to them, have them touch things, shake their hand. This is all valid ways to communicate and will eventually, if continued, lead them up toward the ideal of “self-determined communication by postulate containing no effort.”
Backing this up LRH writes earlier in the chapter: “How does one communicate? A method of permissible communication is via MEST. One places his ability into hands, eyes, etc., and by sound waves, light particles and others, communicates.” (page 285)
Try it! Run into a situation where your kid is mum, not saying anything, in expressed resentment. Try shaking his hand, rubbing his back. Open up the communication with him or with her on any level and it will eventually soar upward.
OK! Fun stuff! Send me your wins and applications; I love to hear them!
Hope to see you all soon!
Love,
Greg Smith
Mace-Kingsley Senior Case Supervisor
Let’s play a little game, shall we?
Close your eyes. Now imagine you are three years old. Standing, sitting or on someone’s lap, I don’t mind.
Ready? Now that you are there I have something I have to tell you. Have a bit of bad news, actually. You can’t have auditing for the next ten years.
There. How’s that feel? Lousy? Depressed? Does it make you mad? Well, how do you think your kid feels? However, you’d be amazed at the amount of times I hear – “The kids are fine. They are going to school, doing their thing. Why should they go in session? Let’s wait until they are a bit older.” But if you were a kid how would you feel, watching your parents and others go in session, feeling locked away from the gains, out of the loop…..
I hear this too: “They don’t know what they are missing.” Baloney!! I’ve worked with hundreds if not thousands of kids over the years, and you know something? Almost every toddler I’ve ever run into recognizes LRH. They generally point to his picture and say “Ron!” Don’t tell me they don’t know.
So what happens when you deny your kids auditing? Well, LRH says in Keeping Scientology Working:
“The only thing you can be upbraided for by students or pcs is ‘no results’.. Trouble spots occur only where there are ‘no results’. Attacks from governments or monopolies occur only where there are ‘no results’ or ‘bad results’.
“Therefore the road before Scientology is clear and its ultimate success is assured if the technology is applied.”
So the rule is simple. Deny the kids auditing, deny the kids the tech for whatever reason and you get – trouble. And if you wait, by the time you do offer them the tech, very often they won’t want it anymore. They will say, “Nah, who cares about that stupid stuff? I never really wanted it anyways. I got more important stuff to do, like hang with my buddies playing Halo or listening to my MP3.”
I know that there is a group agreement out there that times are scary and a bit tough, belts need to be tightened, priorities rearranged. Just do me one little favor.
Don’t put your kids’ Bridge on the back burner. Don’t deny your kids the tech.
Or maybe one day you’ll wake up and your kids won’t want Scientology anymore. Whew. Isn’t that the scariest thought of all?
ML,
Sandy Mesmer
Mace-Kingsley Auditor (20 years working with Children)
SHSBC Graduate, Golden Age of Tech Class IV
Marriage Counselor
Fully HattedFlag® Trained EO
New OT® VIII
